At first, it seems confusing, worrying and perhaps even embarrassing to admit that your feelings have changed; after all, it's supposed to be happy ever after, right?
Is it normal to no longer want to have sex with your partner?
Many relationships end up this way because people fall into a very common way of relating to each other that they have absolutely no conscious awareness of until it's pointed out to them.
This way of relating is called co-dependency and it can be defined as:
"I need someone who needs me"
Chances are, you went into the relationship either looking for someone who could meet your emotional needs, or someone you could save (or both!); in fairytales this is called: "someone who completes me."
When you found that "someone", it was as if your dreams had come true. You felt a sense of elation, joy, relief, peace and completion. You never imagined you could feel so good!
Therapy is a great way to work through your relationship issues so that you can gain courage and confidence to tackle what needs to be addressed in your relationship, safely and effectively.
If you are depressed, demoralised and lacking in confidence, an experienced therapist can help you to work through these issues and develop a plan for making your relationship really work.
The most effective course of action is for you to go to your local GP and ask for a Mental Health Care Plan and a referral to a reputable and experienced Clinical Psychologist.
Under the Medicare scheme introduced in 2006, you are entitled to 10 sessions of Medicare rebated psychotherapy per calendar year. As of June 2014, you receive a $124.50 rebate per session.
This could be the first step to transforming your relationship into a deep and loving one that stands the test of time, rather than go through yet another breakup only to start the cycle again with someone new.
If you'd like to find out more about how to heal your relationship and your life from the chronic low mood that comes from being in a difficult relationship, I'd be happy to help! Just give me a call on: 6498 9623 to set up a time for an appointment.
Alternatively, help yourself to a copy of my free report: "What To Do If You're A Professional Woman Looking For Love... But Haven't Yet Found "The One". Click on the link here to get a copy.