Interestingly, many women feel this way too! You may feel that to seek help is an admission of weakness, failure, defectiveness, shame and not being in control. 

   The reality is that as human beings we are all biologically adapted to need help from each other. The structure of our brains is such that at any given time we are consciously aware of only a tiny amount of information about the interaction between the environment and ourselves. In comparison a very large amount of information is just outside of our conscious awareness and it is from this unconscious place that emotional problems arise. The plain fact is that what's causing the problem is just not available to your conscious awareness! And no matter how much thinking and figuring out you do, you just seem to go round and round in circles and not fix anything at all.

   Seeing a psychologist is like consulting a kind, wise and intelligent friend who has decades of training and experience in accurately detecting and addressing these kinds of issues. It is possible to pinpoint the origin of the problem that's been lurking outside of your awareness for years and find an effective way to work through it. Imagine, having two people work on this seemingly intractable issue together – more possibilities can now emerge!